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Why Bol Bol’s Break-Up from Gold Digger IG Model GF is a Blip and not a Trend

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Bol Bol may have gotten some sense, but too many men haven’t, and until more of them do, expect the sexual marketplace imbalance to continue.

Denver Nuggets player Bol Bol has apparently ended his relationship with Instagram and Onlyfans model Mulan Hernandez, and the speculation is that he ended the relationship after she participated in a Tik Tok trend in which women admit to being gold diggers for life. Bol Bol may have gotten some sense, but until more men do, occurrences like this will be rare and the imbalance in dating and relationships will continue.

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Why the Onlyfans Sexually Explicit Content Ban Changes Nothing

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As long as there is a market, the service providers will remain.

Beginning in October, Onlyfans will ban sexually explicit content – content that it has become most famous for – in an attempt to de-stigmatize itself as an amateur porn site and become a more mainstream premium content creator space. While some people think this is a win for the good guys, it actually changes nothing because as long as today’s man is willing to line the pockets of women for virtual love, the market will dictate a steady demand for the service. If Onlyfans bows out of the sex trade, another platform will step in to fill the void. As I’ve always said, if you want Onlyfans and social media models to be taken down a peg, men need to stop creating the demand for the marketplace.

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What Men Need to Learn from PJ Washington and Brittany Renner

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Once again, we have another cautionary tale as to why men need to make better decisions when it comes to correcting the current state of dating.

Charlotte Hornets forward PJ Washington is staring down the barrel of relationship disfunction and child support hell after the ending of his relationship with social media star and Instagram model, Brittany Renner. While everyone is entitled to be with who they want to be with, it is nevertheless reasonable to question the judgment of a man who willfully enters into a relationship with a woman who wrote a book detailing her sexual relationships with men in the sports and entertainment industries. I keep saying that the current chaotic state of dating and relationships is mostly the result of men’s poor decision-making habits. If we want it to change, men are going to have to make better choices.

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Why Robert Griffin, III Getting Backlash for Appreciating His White Wife on Instagram is Foolish

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Why are we still talking about the problems with interracial relationships?

When NFL quarterback Robert Griffin, III posted a video on Instagram showing appreciation to his white wife, people naturally went off the handle and resumed the discussion on why it is bad for black men to date interracially. This is a discussion that is getting old by the minute for two reasons. First, as society changes and black people continue to climb the socioeconomic ladder, their dating preferences will evolve along with them. Second, and most important, if black women want to see black men “stay home”, all they have to do is listen to what black men say they want and provide that!

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J. Cole Haters Should Take a Chill Pill and LIVE ABUNDANTLY!

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Approaching life with the abundance mentality is the key to meaningful relationships and success.

When speaking with ESPN, Basketball Africa League player Terrell Stoglin provided his thoughts on J. Cole receiving the opportunity to play for the league’s Rwanda Patriots, suggesting that Cole took an opportunity away from other, more deserving players. Furthermore, he believes that given Cole’s privileged position as a hip-hop star, he doesn’t need the opportunity, and that his spot should have gone to other players who work hard to obtain a roster spot. This mentality is emblematic of our approach to life through the scarcity paradigm. If we want to be successful and live fulfilling lives, we have to stop thinking that one’s opportunity represents something being taken away from us. Success is contingent on approaching life through the abundance paradigm and seeking to establish meaningful relationships that can help to facilitate our own success.

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A Guy Creates 150 Instagram Accounts to Beg His Ex to Take Him Back: Why Men Continue to Take L’s

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This is another example as to why women’s dating and relationship dysfunction is rooted in men’s lack of self-respect, lack of self-esteem, and poor social skills.

Desperate to try and salvage his relationship, a man went so far as to create 150 different Instagram accounts in attempts to reach her through DMs. After blocking them all, she put out a video exposing the lengths that he’s gone to to try to reach her. At some point, men are going to have to realize that the source of women’s perceived undesired behavior in relation to men and relationships is our own poor decision-making habits and an inability (or unwillingness) to carry ourselves with the dignity and respect that we claim to want them to treat us with. Another L for men everywhere. Thanks, bro…

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Bobby Shmurda and the Threat of a Black Man with Options

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What’s with the animosity for black men who choose to explore their options?

The second that hip-hop star Bobby Shmurda became associated with a white woman, it was open season on his character and why it’s a crime against humanity for him as a black man to choose to date out. What’s the real issue with black men who choose to date out? Is it about foregoing our moral obligation to help uplift the race, or is this just an examination of how women need to lighten up and gain a better understanding of modern dating and where they fall in the pecking order with respect to men who have options? Women need to accept that they’re going to have to compete!

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Men Don’t Get It: Why Iggy Azalea’s DM Exposure and Thirst Culture is Our (Men) Fault

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When are men going to stop complaining about the current state of the sexual marketplace, accept accountability, and do what needs to be done to change things?

The manosphere erupted with criticism towards hip-hop star Iggy Azalea when she put her high-profile DMs on blast, exposing how far men will go to get her attention on social media. Men generally have a problem with the current state of the sexual marketplace and the advent of things like OnlyFans and Instagram, but what we as men need to understand is that this dynamic is one that has been proliferated due to our actions and behaviors. If we want it to stop, we’re going to need to change our behavior.

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NBA Player Paul George is Clowned for Relationship with Ex-Stripper, and We Talk About Simping

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What Paul George being clowned for his relationship with an ex-stripper can teach men about simping, knowing their value, and how to seek successful relationships.

We talk about the remarks that Damian Lillard’s sister made toward Paul George when she involved herself in her brother’s social media back-and-forth with George, who infamously got with a stripper and now shares two children with her. We talk about simping, whether it’s a real thing, and how it has fundamentally changed dating, relationships, and the way men and women interact with one another.

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CeeDee Lamb’s Draft Night and the Importance of Good Judgement

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Good judgement when it comes to the women you keep company with is just as important to sustaining your career as anything else.

During the 2020 NFL Draft, Oklahoma wide receiver CeeDee Lamb attracted humorous attention when a domestic tiff between he and his girlfriend was caught on camera. While much ado about nothing on the surface, this can serve as a great example of the need for good judgement on the part of pro athletes and entertainers, especially when it comes to the women they choose to spend their time with.

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